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We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.

"I don’t want my ears pierced."

"I don’t want any earrings."

The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.

She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”

Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’

We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.

Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’

Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.

Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.

No means no, yeah, right.

Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”

from "No Means Force" at Dave Hingsburger’s blog.

This is important. It doesn’t just apply to little girls and other children, though it often begins there.

For the marginalized, our “no’s” are discounted as frivolous protests, rebelliousness, or anger issues, or we don’t know what we’re talking about, or we don’t understand what’s happening.

When “no means force” we become afraid to say no.

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16 Aug 14
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Whoa boost for Bard related content, yessss
15 Aug 14
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eatsleepdraw:

Art School Ego
by Tom Eichacker

eatsleepdraw:

Art School Ego

by Tom Eichacker

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14 Aug 14
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grrrlfever:

you keep saying “we’re all human” but all i hear is “i want to completely ignore institutionalised oppression and shut my eyes and pretend everyone is treated equally to escape the guilt of the numerous privileges i’m afforded”

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14 Aug 14
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coyotelips:

hiddlesfiddleswithme:

Little girl being pepper sprayed in #ferguson #stopdontshoot #justiceformikebrown

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME


heads up, this is actually from 2011 in Brazil, definitely not in the US and now. Not very far off from what’s happening in Ferguson but we gotta be accurate

coyotelips:

hiddlesfiddleswithme:

Little girl being pepper sprayed in #ferguson #stopdontshoot #justiceformikebrown

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME

heads up, this is actually from 2011 in Brazil, definitely not in the US and now. Not very far off from what’s happening in Ferguson but we gotta be accurate

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13 Aug 14
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I know she's said some shit that made me roll my eyes off my head, but I don't remember if it was either one of those. Now it's mainly just "some people are impossible to please" and "social justice warrior PC blah blah blah". And how lovely Dick is. More laugh-angry than rage-angry.
Anonymous

well aside from her questionable taste and petty dismissal, not much to comment on.

My thoughts about the upcoming show are parts excitement (seeing all the actors together again will be great), disappointment at the premise (this was the best RT could do as a tie in series? the best idea he/his writers had? really?) but I’m mostly trying to keep my expectations level, not trying to expect anything. My initial reaction was a lot more bitterly disappointed, I remember way back when this thing was rumored, because it seemed like another instance of Dick/Ryan Hansen being prioritized over more interesting characters (who actually acted like characters and displayed character growth and faced the consequences of their actions) just like he was in season 3. But it might not be exactly that, and Ryan is a talented guy so I’m just trying to keep an open mind about where this goes.

13 Aug 14
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If you're ever in the mood to get angry in the near future, you should take a little look at what the turmblr user neptunerising70 is saying about this whole Dick spin off thing. It's a veritable goldmine.
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wait, is that the person who said it wasn’t fair for Veronica to have trust issues with Logan for the terrible things he did and said to Veronica during their time at high school because Veronica implicitly forgave him for all of it when she started dating him, or the one who said we as an audience was supposed to feel greater sympathy for Logan than Veronica when Veronica was told Logan might have been the one to date rape her? Or was that the same person

shit, this fandom.

ETA: So i took a quick look and I didn’t see anything really terrible? there’s this reference to “SJ wankers” they write that indicates that they’re nothing great, but other than that I didn’t see anything other than them being excited for this show that is (most likely) going to have a lot of flaws? IDK maybe i missed the meat of it but whatever

12 Aug 14
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cool-ghoul:

deliciousanimatedfood:

This drunk ass skeleton used to make me thirsty as fuck

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12 Aug 14
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devilthrones:

A Facebook friend of mine had the perfect thing to say about this creep:
This is why, despite being a nonbeliever and a scientifically minded person, I hesitate to identify as a member of the skeptic/atheist community- it is dominated by pompous white men who find doing things like categorizing rape into different “levels” of badness, and playing logical fallacy “gotcha” games with anyone hurt by this, to be a diverting intellectual exercise. In truth, they may act like this is nothing more than a fun little project, but this is to hide how much emotional validation and sexual enjoyment they derive from this game. Their intent is to do harm, and to assert power by the further gaslighting and violation of boundaries of those who protest. The more you ask them to stop, the more excited they get, and the more they will try to pull you into a “debate” and harm you further. This is not done in the spirit of true inquiry and debate; it is abuse disguised in the sterile wrapping of “discourse.” 

devilthrones:

A Facebook friend of mine had the perfect thing to say about this creep:

This is why, despite being a nonbeliever and a scientifically minded person, I hesitate to identify as a member of the skeptic/atheist community- it is dominated by pompous white men who find doing things like categorizing rape into different “levels” of badness, and playing logical fallacy “gotcha” games with anyone hurt by this, to be a diverting intellectual exercise. In truth, they may act like this is nothing more than a fun little project, but this is to hide how much emotional validation and sexual enjoyment they derive from this game. Their intent is to do harm, and to assert power by the further gaslighting and violation of boundaries of those who protest. The more you ask them to stop, the more excited they get, and the more they will try to pull you into a “debate” and harm you further. This is not done in the spirit of true inquiry and debate; it is abuse disguised in the sterile wrapping of “discourse.” 

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11 Aug 14
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Painstakingly Accurate, Beautiful Papercut Art

I don’t know if these were done with a utility knife or with a surgeon’s laser, and I might not be able to tell the difference. Bovey Lee’s paper cut art is incredible. We’ve included a couple of close-up slides to show you just how intricate these pieces are.

Source: Bovey Lee

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